A friend loves at all times... Proverbs 17:17

I talked to my best friend twice yesterday. This rarely happens... but when it does it makes me smile. I miss her. She's that person for me. That girl that I can say two words to and she knows exactly how I feel. I think we just get each other. We're on the same wavelength. I don't think very many people have that. It makes me feel really lucky. I actually have two of those girls. Two! I've been thinking about friendships a lot lately. Maybe this is because I have been blessed with friends the last few months... something I've been praying about since I started college. But, really, it's crazy how dynamics of friendships change over time and how true friends stay connected. I think there will always be something in life that makes it hard to be friends with someone. (I'm not saying it's hard to be friends with people). I think that at this point in my life, boys make friendships more complicated. I don't mean that boys are a bad thing... I'm not a crazy feminist... I love boys. Don't get me wrong. But, I feel like they are one of the components that change the dynamics of friendships. They cause this jealous sort of tension between girls. Not jealous as in two girls wanting to date the same boy. Jealous as in one girl dating a boy and the friend feeling cheated on time with the newly committed girl. And... it seems the girl always chooses time with the boy. And, really, I think that's the way it should be... at this college-I-want-a-serious-boyfriend stage of life. Things change between friendships because priorities are different. And, that's ok. But, it's always happening. It seems to be starting right now... and I'm not sure if it ever stops. For example, first there is the single vs. not single difference, then maybe the married vs. unmarried difference, next the kids vs. no kids difference... and I think it just goes on and on. And, I've realized that even if my friends and I aren't going through the same things at the same time, we are still going to be friends. This is just the way we are. I say this because it has been tested. And we're still friends. And, this is how I think you know who is your lifelong friend and who is not. Then, there are those other friends, that are great friends... but they may not last through all the different changes. But, those friends are important too. I think that they come and go... and sometimes you find a special one that you realize you want to make the effort to stay connected with. And then, there is that transition. I know I'm making this friendship thing more complicated than it should be. But, I like the dynamics. And really, I think we should just embrace whatever stage we are in with people. Did I say that I am blessed? Because I am! God knows this entire friend business and I'm glad that He does. He's good like that.